Your pace is the right pace
You don't have to meet anyone until you're ready, and you can take a step back at any time.
Many people on The Widowed Pond want to take things slowly. Saying so on your profile helps you find people who feel the same.
Simple ways to take it slowly
- Chat for a while first. Get to know someone through messages before you meet.
- Start with friendship. Plenty of good relationships begin that way.
- Keep first meetings short, and in the daytime if you prefer.
- Share personal details gradually, as trust builds.
Being clear with others
It's kind to be honest. A simple "I'd like to take things slowly" lets the other person know where they stand. Someone who pressures you to move faster isn't the right person for you.
If you need a break
It's fine to pause, especially around difficult dates. Read dealing with guilt and mixed feelings.