Dating advice and guides

Gentle, practical advice for dating again after losing a partner, from knowing when you're ready to first dates, family and staying safe.

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Dating after losing a partner: how to know you're ready

There's no right time. A few gentle questions to help you decide.

Online dating has changed: a guide if you're coming back to it

Profiles, messaging, badges and safety, simply explained.

How to start a conversation on a dating site

Openers that get replies, and keeping early messages light.

First dates after a long time

Gentle ideas for a relaxed first meeting.

Talking about your late partner

When to mention them, and how to share this part of your life.

Dealing with guilt and mixed feelings

Being kind to yourself as you meet someone new.

Telling your family and friends

Including grown-up children, and first introductions.

Taking it slowly

Going at your own pace, and finding someone who respects it.

How to spot a fake dating profile

The warning signs, including scammers who target people who've been bereaved.

What the badges mean

Ticks, badges and ratings explained, and how to earn your own.

What's free and what's VIP?

Everything a free account can do, what VIP and VIP Plus add, and what each plan costs.

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